Passport to Passion
Your passions are the passport to the life of your
dreams.
by Kimberly Fulcher
Passion is a feeling of excitement and intensity. The energy of passion
fuels a fulfilled life, and supports the growth and development of
our personal purpose and potential. When was the last time you felt
pure passion? Do you even know what you’re passionate about? Would
you recognize an opportunity to reconnect with your personal passion
if one presented itself? In childhood, you were filled with passion.
You knew instinctively what you loved, and you probably approached
each day with joy and anticipation. You were truly connected with
your passions, and you were living authentically. Then, you grew up.
You got responsible, and your passion was replaced by the multitude
of “shoulds” and “musts” thrust upon you by an adult world.
In my work as a coach, I’ve had the opportunity to
help many people rediscover and reconnect with their passion. The
process I use involves identifying and aligning with personal values.
While much of our culture equates values with a sense of morality,
in the coaching world values are referred to as those qualities or
interests which you’re naturally drawn to or inclined to experience.
They’re the feelings or experiences in life you truly appreciate,
and both passion and fulfillment live on the other side of their discovery
and integration.
When you know what is passionately and excitingly
important to you, you will become very clear. You will begin to approach
life differently, and set goals with more vision and intensity. You
will embrace both success and failure with a greater level of acceptance
and insight, and you will enjoy the process of living more fully.
The process of rediscovering what your values, and
thus your passions, are is fun and easy. You can begin by asking yourself
a few questions.
What Are Your Favorite Past Times?
If I were to give you one free day – meaning you
would get paid, everything on your “to do” list would be accomplished,
and everyone in your family would be taken care of, what would you
do? Would you spend the day in the sun reading a good book? Would
you cook a gourmet meal? Would you go antiquing, or take in a matinee?
Would you spend the afternoon with your spouse, or with friends? Would
you spend the day working out, or being pampered in a day spa?
Once you’ve determined what you’d do, decide why
that would be so satisfying. What about these activities interests
you? For example, if you’d prefer to spend the day with friends, it
might be that you really appreciate the connection and communication
you give and receive when you’re with people you care about. If you
chose to go antiquing, discovery may be exciting to you. If working
out or spending the day at a spa sounded heavenly, it could be that
health, fitness, and wellness are potential values.
The things you love hold significant clues to unlocking
your values. Once you’ve identified the specific activities that attract
you, the key to defining your values lives in identifying the feelings
within those activities that fulfill you.
When Do You Feel Most Natural?
When do you feel most natural? Where are you most
at ease? When your competence is so seemingly effortless that others
recognize you for your abilities, it’s likely you’re near a natural
aptitude, and these abilities will frequently lead to your values.
For example, do you effortlessly create systems to
organize tasks or physical items? Order may be a value. Do you easily
spend quiet time with yourself? Perhaps you value solitude. Does creating
something where nothing existed before thrill you? You might consider
building or manifestation for your values.
Nature has purpose. The more closely aligned you
are with your natural abilities; the closer you will be to defining
your values, and the more likely you will be to experience great passion
and fulfillment on a recurring basis.
What Could You Teach?
Do you have substantial knowledge about a specific
subject? Have you ever been told you should write a book or teach
a class? What would your book or class be about? Our interests, those
things we are drawn to spend time learning about or talking about,
are related to our values.
I worked in Corporate America for ten years before
becoming a coach. On “the side” I read book after book about self
development. I went to ten seminars per year, and I worked with my
own coach. I loved talking with others about human development, and
I invested a great deal of time and energy mentoring my staff. I was
naturally gravitating toward one of my highest values – growth.
Your inherent interests will help you define your
values. Pay close attention to the experiences and topics you’re naturally
drawn to, and you will discover the passion at the source of that
intrigue.
Intentional Integration
The passion living within you can fuel your life.
You can jump out of bed first thing in the morning, excited to take
on the world. You can stretch yourself beyond personal limits which
may have held you back in the past. You need only connect with the
source of inspiration and enthusiasm inside of you. Once you do this,
your whole life can change.
This material is excerpted from “Life Fitness”, written by Kimberly
Fulcher. Copyright 2003. All rights reserved.
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Kimberly Fulcher is a professional coach, author and
speaker, with twelve years of experience in human development. Her
professional experience includes the co-founding and $ 38 million
dollar sale of SkillsVillage.com, and her leadership of a leading
Silicon Valley consulting firm, where she grew revenues from $3M to
$25M in four short years. Kimberly sits on the board of directors
for The Silicon Valley Coach Federation, and actively supports non-profit
organizations that benefit underprivileged women and primary education
initiatives. Kimberly offers group and individual coaching programs,
speaks throughout The United States, and will publish her first book
in 2004.
Kimberly can be reached via her website at www.compasslifedesigns.com
or by email at Kimberly_Fulcher@compasslifedesigns.com
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